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Staying on top of your self care

Written By Kirsty Windsor                                                                        July 2022

A little bit about me

Hello! Kirsty here from The Letterbox Edition

After going through a difficult time in life, I decided to make a big change. I stopped chasing the corporate dream in aid of setting up and running a small business from home. 

I am a firm believer in making time for yourself, and spent a lot of time during lockdown completing online courses around mental health, emotional resilience and self care. 

I always knew I wanted to work for myself, and decided to take my passion for self care, handmade products and supporting  small businesses and set up a letterbox gifting company sending care packages through the post. 

If you are looking for a care package for yourself or a loved one, please head over to www.theletterboxedition.co.ukIf you can’t see exactly what you are looking for, please reach out, I would be love to curate a gift box for you.

A picture of Kirsty,; owner of the letterbox edition

My self care journey

Self care is vital for building resilience towards stresses in your life, it isn’t all face masks & bubble baths and whilst these things do help to allow you to relax and unwind you need to ensure you are taking care of yourself, physically, emotionally, spiritually and socially.

I don’t profess to be any means an expert, but I have put together some of my top tips to make sure you stay on top of your self care. 

Shut those peepers

It's ok to rest; treat your body to a good night's sleep

Don’t underestimate the importance of sleep. Without enough sleep the brain simply cannot function properly. It’s so important to allow your body to repair and be fit and ready for another day. Whilst there are many factors that contribute to a bad night’s sleep, especially with young children, there are many things you can do to aid a restful night’s sleep.

My top tip would be to stop scrolling! I think we are all guilty of this; aimlessly scrolling through social media whilst we lay in bed. Before we know it 30 minutes have passed by. Try to put your phone to one side and spend those 30 minutes reflecting on the day, being with your thoughts and drifting off into a restful night’s sleep. 

If you are struggling to drift off, there are many different things you can try. I personally love a  self heating eye mask. Game changer. You won’t know what you are missing until you have tried one of these. These are a little luxury in life, and not something I use every day. However, if my mind is full, it works so well to bring instant calmness and relaxation. 

Not an instant fix, but something to think about is your bedroom space. Does your bedroom bring a feeling of calm? Try to declutter your bedroom, take those piles of clothes to the charity shop, put away the washing, tidy your makeup space. A cluttered room can make your mind feel busy. 

A clean and tidy room can also make morning routines run more smoothly, if like me you’re rushing around in the morning trying to find a matching pair of school socks, getting organised can take the stress out of the morning rush.

Do good, feel good.

Try to look for ways to do good in your local community. When you do something good, you feel happier. This can be anything from litter picking, cutting an elderly neighbour’s grass, or helping with a local charity event. 

It’s often the small things that make the difference, for example if a neighbour is off their feet can you put the bin out for them? Just a small gesture can mean the world to someone. 

My favourite part of putting together my letterbox gifts is handwriting the gift notes. I see such lovely messages of love and friendship. Often my gift boxes are sent when people are going through a difficult time, it brings me such joy to know that I will bring a smile to their face even when facing sadness.

Get those steps in

Get out for some fresh air, it will do you the world of good. You will spot me in all weathers, out walking our dog around Macclesfield Forest. Don’t let the bad weather put you off. A walk in the rain can be just as enjoyable as a walk in the sunshine, just dress appropriately! Whatever you enjoy; swimming, running, playing tennis or like me just simply walking, just get moving.

Often time is not on our side, can you utilise your lunch break to get outside for some fresh air? Can you walk to the shop instead of driving? Getting out for a walk brings so many benefits – helping to clear your mind, boosting your energy and helping to aid a restful night’s sleep.

An image of Kirsty walking two dogs

Get sh*t done

Running a small business alongside raising a family can be gruelling and having a list of things to do whirling around your head can be overwhelming. Get some pen and paper out and make a to-do list! As silly as it sounds it is so satisfying to cross tasks off one by one.

Don’t forget to be realistic, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Try creating a daily and weekly to-do list, even a monthly list with your aims or goals for the coming weeks.. Be realistic with what you can achieve each day, although tasks can be rolled over it can be frustrating to have a never ending to do list. 

Just a side note to say sometimes life throws curveballs and to do lists go out the window. That’s OK, don’t beat yourself up just keep going. 

Another tip would be to try to spend time each week to meal plan and prep for the week ahead. If you know you have after school clubs or are working late, try to have a meal prepped that can be just reheated. It’s so easy to fall into a trap of eating junk on these evenings or reaching for the take away apps. I often find takeaways can leave me feeling sluggish and guilty for wasting money when there is plenty of food in the house.

Get your om on

When first looking at meditation, I didn’t really know where to start. I turned to the Headspace app and decided to dedicate small chunks of time to sit quietly with my thoughts. There are many other apps available offering daily meditation videos, breathing exercises. Not all will be the right fit for you – but go ahead and give it a whirl.  

Stop bottling it up

It’s so important to have someone to talk to, especially when you are going through a difficult time in life. I’m guilty of putting on a brave face and going about by day, but your emotions catch up with you eventually. So, whether it is your partner, sister,  or a friend, make sure you are talking to someone about how you are feeling. You may wish to seek professional help when navigating difficult times, my advice would be to seek out a local counselling service. If you are local to Macclesfield,  Alison offers an invaluable service. Alison offers a free phone consultation giving you the opportunity to see if it is the right fit for you.

And relax

Life is busy, there is no getting away from that. However, it is so vital to make a small amount of time for yourself. I try to do this each day, whether it be the cliche bubble bath and face mask or putting my feet up to squeeze in an episode of my favourite TV programme. Don’t feel guilty for taking this time, spend it doing something you enjoy. So read that book, knit that blanket or complete that puzzle, whatever brings you joy. Try and do something you enjoy every day.

How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you

The Letterbox Edition

If you would like to find out more about the products Kirsty offers at The Letterbox Edition pop over to her website where you can browse not only self-care packages but packages for children and vegan self-care packages. 

www.theletterboxedition.co.uk

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